The prime motivator in my life at present is my need to be validated.  The rules are simple:  I want to be acknowledged by a reliable source for something I believe I have done well.  This motivator has been a huge blessing and a serious curse to me, and I’m deciding what to do about it.

I don't have a particularly deep or inspiring blog this week.  I just had it in my heart to say something.  It won't take long.

I hadn’t had a piano lesson in 15 years. 

Recently I’ve been directed to a remarkable article in the Harvard Business Review called “The Feedback Fallacy” by Marcus Buckingham and Ashley Goodall.  The article explains why the idea of giving “feedback,” touted by a lot of businesses as a great tool for developing learning in their workforce, in fact has the opposite effect. 

If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time, you’ll know I like bowling.  Me and my boys go from time to time, and it’s been both fun and frustrating to try to figure out why I’m so terrible.  We went yesterday, and I had an experience that I’d like to share with you.

I’m experiencing a joy I never thought I’d have.

I’m going to admonish those of you who create, or perform, or do anything at all.  Don’t just do it to prove how good you are.  Find better reasons to do your art than gauging your right to do it, or even your right to exist and take up space.


The question of your value won’t go away just because you want it to.  You have to get it settled and out of your head somehow.  There are several ways to do that.



How To Fight Power 


If you believe in social justice or reform, you can work for change all you want, but the moment you become big or powerful enough to threaten a real vested interest, they will immediately make every effort to destroy you.  Here’s how powerful people fight:  as soon as they recognize something is a threat, they smash it.  This happens all the time in economics, when big businesses first attempt to buy, then attempt to drive into the ground, any small business that threatens them.


The odds for those who want to make changes seem overwhelming.  How can you fight an enemy who is so powerful that they can squash you?  

Most people would agree that the world would be a worse place if someone they loved wasn’t in it.  And if anyone loves you, anyone at all, then it’s clear that the world would be a worse place if you weren’t in it.  Less beautiful, less interesting.


If you are mentally healthy enough to believe this obvious truth, then turn it around.  The world is better with you in it.  More beautiful, more interesting.


When I imagine a terrible future for our world, I’m usually not in it.  Or if I am, I’m a victim, and very passive.  This is telling, because it suggests a way forward.

I don’t go to music for the same things anymore.  That leaves me wondering.  What am I going to music for?


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